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My Granny Passed Away
Posted 11-02-2007 at 10:48 PM by Momof2boyz
I thought that when my aunt passed away last year was the worst day of my life, but today is. My granny died late last night. She had been in the hospital for about a week with several problems, but all the doctors she saw said it was nothing and that she could probably come home when the worst of her problems was under control. On Wednesday, they had to put her on a respirator, but she couldn't get comfortable while she was on it so they took it out. She made her downfall after that.
My granny was 89 years old and led an extremely healthy and active life. She was very active at the hospital and was a deacon in her church. She was very giving with her money...she has donated millions to needy families and to the Christian Children's Fund. With her money, she was in the process of helping build a state of the art cancer center in memory of her daughter Judy, my aunt.
The worst thing is I can't get to Pennsylvania for her funeral. I feel like I'm being left out. I did call her yesterday to say my final goodbyes, but she could not tell me herself that she loved me. She had to write it down and have my aunt tell me. I hate that I couldn't be there for her in her final moments and that I can't be there for her now. I don't know how I can make it through this. I'm still not over losing my Aunt Judy and now I have to deal with losing my grandmother.
My granny was 89 years old and led an extremely healthy and active life. She was very active at the hospital and was a deacon in her church. She was very giving with her money...she has donated millions to needy families and to the Christian Children's Fund. With her money, she was in the process of helping build a state of the art cancer center in memory of her daughter Judy, my aunt.
The worst thing is I can't get to Pennsylvania for her funeral. I feel like I'm being left out. I did call her yesterday to say my final goodbyes, but she could not tell me herself that she loved me. She had to write it down and have my aunt tell me. I hate that I couldn't be there for her in her final moments and that I can't be there for her now. I don't know how I can make it through this. I'm still not over losing my Aunt Judy and now I have to deal with losing my grandmother.
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Oh,momo...sorry to hear about that.
I lost my grandfather two years ago.He was 84 years when he died,at a hospital ICU.
I suffered a lot,like you are suffering now,but with time you will feel better...it worked with me,but i never forgot him,never.By what you wrote i can say she was a wonderful and a very generous woman,just remember this.
You need to be strong to go through this and to feel better...be strong.
*hugs* for you to feel better and less sad,okay?Posted 11-02-2007 at 11:16 PM by Gothic
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I'm so sorry for you
My thoughts are with you and your family....take good care of your self 
Posted 11-03-2007 at 12:21 AM by sun -
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Mom (I feel funny calling you that...)...
Feel free to PM or pager me any time. I know exactly where you are coming from in how you are feeling and not being able to be there. While I could for my paternal grandmother, I was not able to be there to say my final goodbyes to my maternal grandparents and more recently one of my maternal aunts... I'm still kind of dealing with losing Aunt Butzy-- it had been 7 years since I saw her in person.. a LOT had changed and I wanted to see her again.. I knew she was dying (Cancer...).
And as it is... I still grieve that I could not be there for my 2 grandparents (9 years and 6 years respectively)
Many many many
for you today.
DuckiePosted 11-03-2007 at 12:27 AM by Ducky
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Posted 11-03-2007 at 12:52 AM by bg38
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Posted 11-03-2007 at 02:53 AM by mugsy_358
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Sending you my deepest sympathy, try not to be too hard on yourself. She sounds like a wonderful lady, I'm sure she wouldn't want you feeling this way, hon. I'm here for you, too.Posted 11-03-2007 at 03:41 AM by Valkyrie
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Sweetie, you just need to realize that you haven't lost your granny at all. If anything, darlin', she's closer to you now than she was when she was alive. I bet that if you just close your eyes and open your spirit you would feel her right beside you. The same for your aunt.
We never completely lose our loved ones to death. We just lose the physicality of them. Their spirit can still be felt and enjoyed as long as you release them into the Light and know that they are now closer to you then ever.
You have my prayers though to help you through this time. Every situation has to have a bright spot; you just need to look at it in the right angle.

Spoiler:Posted 11-03-2007 at 04:02 AM by K'Lyn
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Posted 11-03-2007 at 04:23 AM by Nefertiti
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sorry for your loss, mom
It looks like your grandmother got as much out of life as she possibly could and for that you ought to be thankful, she didn't die a miserable old woman, she died an active full spirited woman, and probably felt that strenght being pulled away from her and wouldn't want to live like a plant. It is sad to lose a grandparent (i lost mine when i was quite young so it's not exactly the same)but you have to cherish what good life she lead and what wonderful person she was. Of course you'll miss her, i stil do with mine (and the last one passed away almost ten years ago) but there is no harm in missing a person, remembering the lovely little things they did, they always will be with you in your heart and mind. My sympathy goes out to you and the family. Take care
Posted 11-03-2007 at 12:47 PM by angelstar
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I'm sorry for your loss...
I know what you're going trough...
My gran is in the hospitals for several weeks/months now...
Untill now the doctors have managed to pull her trough everytime but I hate the sound of my cell at the moment cuz I know it might well be the hospital...
Take care
Posted 11-03-2007 at 01:47 PM by neija
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I am so sorry for your loss honey. Please don't beat yourself up about not being able to be there - if you could have been there, you would have. In your heart you KNOW that your Gran loved you, as you did her, please don't lose sight of that.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Keep strong.
Many
Posted 11-03-2007 at 02:00 PM by Lucy UK
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i'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I couldn't make it to my grandad's funeral and i know how hard it is to feel you haven't said a proper goodbye, but she knows you love and miss her, and you know she loves and misses you. Thats what counts.
feel free to pm or page me, even if it's just to rant at how unfair everything seems
sending you warm thoughts and love....Posted 11-03-2007 at 03:57 PM by angiel
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I'm so sorry to hear of your granny's passing. Please know that my thoughts are with you. Your granny sounds like a wonderful woman, and she reminds me of mine, who was also a deacon in her church, volunteered for Red Cross blood drives, and worked at the polls.
She knows you're with her, even though you cannot physically be at her funeral.
Posted 11-03-2007 at 04:42 PM by LunaNik
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