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Hello...

Posted 11-19-2007 at 01:33 PM by janspirit

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Hi All,

Well, just wanted to tell you all something about me maybe you did not know...

The last year has been one of the toughest of my life (well, my life is not over yet so there may be another to beat it, who knows)...

My ex husband was arrested last October (2006) and extradited back to the Uk from Eire where we were living from 2003. He faced charges of child abuse. We used to look after a neighbour's 2 boys and they reported to the police that my ex abused them.

After one year in a bail hostel in the Uk, my ex's trial finally came around on 15 October last. He pleaded guilty to all charges. OMG!!!!!! I had broken up with him last November, but this was a massive shock to me as I believed him when he said he didn't do it, although over the last twelve months, I came to realise that my reality was definitely different to his version, as friends from the past came forward to reveal things they had never told me in the past.

Last week, on Thursday, he received his sentence. He got eight years. Too little I think for what he has done, as those boys will have a life sentence..

Anyway, at least he will be locked up for a while with plenty of time to reflect on what he has done and how that has affected everyone in his life, especially the boys who are now 18 and 17.

I wish I could erase the past, but I can't. I have to live with it everyday.

I just wanted to let you all know what's going on with me and that I've really appreciated being on Nord and all the friends I've made here, especially Jake, Haroula, Norway, Rosalie, Jimbo, KenChan and sorry if I missed anyone, anyway you know who you are.. And a great big massive squeezy hug for Lucy Uk, my sis, who has been there for me .. what can I say, she is truly my EARTH ANGEL..

Thanks guys and girls.

I've finally got my own place and moved in last month. I had a flat warming last Friday night and it was great. Yep!! I got drunk..!! Hee hee!! And why not???

Anyways, my new life is unfolding and I'm moving upwards and onwards...

kisses and hugs to all of you

Love and Light

Jan xoxoxoxoxoxo

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1. 	Re: Hello... this page in the book is gone now... we turn the page!!!... and paint the new pages from now on with beautiful colours and beautiful people and chocolates and ABBA songs and ABBA outfits and christmas puddings and chocolate chip cookies and capuccino and truffles cinamon rolls and spinach pies... take care sweetie!
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 01:43 PM by Harold

2. 	Re: Hello... Hi sweetie, must have been very hard on you! I wish you all the best with this new start in life and I'm sure you will have many happy years to come.
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 01:44 PM by neija

3. 	Re: Hello... As you know i already knew about this, but i am glad he has finely got this sentence even if i also think it is way to little (in my opinion people that does this should have life sentence without chanse to get out) Hopefully you can now go on with your life So glad to read that you had a sucessfull house warming, congrats with a new house
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 01:44 PM by Norway

4. 	Re: Hello... Good luck with it all
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 01:45 PM by itSFMe

5. 	Re: Hello... The only way for you now is onwards and upwards, I wish you all the luck in the world. What an ordeal...
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 01:55 PM by Scouser

6. 	Re: Hello... Now you have a warm flat, let's hope everything else in your life is warm and cosy too Turn the page? hell after all that - start a new book, "What Jan Did Next..." (Beautiful imagery by Harold )
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 02:20 PM by Jimborama

7. Re: Hello... leave my pages alone Jimbo... i said it first... yeah right! a new book and flying horsees... i said page... it can be a new chapter... a new book a new encyclopedia... i said it first... i won!!! ignore him babes! we are the new ABBA he is not!!! I've been cheated by you since I don't know when So I made up my mind, it must come to an end Look at me now, will I ever learn? I don't know how but I suddenly lose control There's a fire within my soul Just one look and I can hear a bell ring One more look and I forget everything, w-o-o-o-oh COME ON ALL TOGETHER NOW...YYYUUUUHUUUU Mamma mia, here I go again MMMMMy MMMMMy, how can I resist you? Mamma mia, does it show again? MMMMMy MMMMMy, just how much I've missed you Yes, I've been brokenhearted Blue since the day we parted Why, why did I ever let you go? Mamma mia, now I really know, MMMMMy MMMMy, I could never let you go.

   Posted 11-19-2007 at 03:08 PM by Harold

8. 	Re: Hello... Hi y'alll!!! Hee hee, Haroula my sweet Little Joy YOU MAKE ME HOWL that's why I LOVE YA HONEY!!!!!!! Abba hee hee! thanks all for your comments.. yes .. a new chapter in a new book!!! Lmao...rofl thanks kisses and hugs to you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 03:17 PM by janspirit

9. 	Re: Hello... This must be a hard thing for you. I'm glad you can start over now, a new apartment is the beginning.. Good luck with everything
   	Posted 11-19-2007 at 03:29 PM by sun

10. 	Re: Hello... H... you have issues girl!
    	Posted 11-19-2007 at 04:04 PM by Jimborama

11. 	Re: Hello... cant imagine what you went through. good luck in everything you do
    	Posted 11-19-2007 at 04:59 PM by tiggs

12. 	Re: Hello... Omg Jan, how awful! I'm glad you found yourself able to [ick up the pieces and move on. Life's what you make it, I'm positive from now on you make it fab! Go girl, you deserve the best! Lots of love!
    	Posted 11-19-2007 at 05:28 PM by speelteveel

13. Re: Hello... Jimbo???? Spoiler: Spoiler: Spoiler: Spoiler: i know you meant to say sorry with that, but its ok i forgive you eeeeeeeeeeeeeverybody now... Soooooooo I say Thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing Thanks for all the joy they're bringing Who can live without it, I ask in all honesty What would life be? Without a song or a dance what are we? So I say thank you for the music For giving it to me

    Posted 11-19-2007 at 05:48 PM by Harold

14. 	Re: Hello... Sorry that you had to go through what you did but the future is bright and I wish you all the best. &
    	Posted 11-19-2007 at 07:24 PM by rjk1010

15. 	Re: Hello... Onward and upward hon! Too bad they couldn't bury him under the jail
    	Posted 11-19-2007 at 07:34 PM by Lebnny

16. 	Re: Hello... Hey Jan - first of all, a HUGE hug As everyone else said, a new page in the book - I'm touched by your story and it's hard to imagine what you went through. Congrats on your new place! Glad to hear about the house-warming, hope it's going to stay a warm home for you...I'm a bit at loss for words, but my wishes of happiness for you come from the heart. Take care hon
    	Posted 11-19-2007 at 09:05 PM by Flamenco_Fleur

17. 	Re: Hello... So good to hear he will be behind bars, not nearly as long as he deserves though! You had a party and didn't invite me!!! I hope this next chapter in your life is a lot better cos that's what you deserve after all you have been through! We will celebrate your new life in February! The first drink will be on me!
    	Posted 11-19-2007 at 10:35 PM by rosalie

18. Re: Hello... Thanks to you all! I'm feeling overwhelmed.. you are all STARS, complete STARS... I felt so ashamed this had happened and I blamed myself A LOT, why did I not see, not know, how could I not.. Looking back, I was going through a tough period then, having been made redundant in 1997 from my job with race equality council.. I basically remembered being abused as a kid and went through several years of counselling and healing from that ... It was during that time it happened... Omg.. wish I could turn back time, but I can't.. anyway, thanks again to you all for your wishes for my future, I'll do my best to make the most of it... hugs and kisses xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Posted 11-19-2007 at 10:49 PM by janspirit

19. Re: Hello... Jan, this has been such a difficult year for you - I'm soooo glad that I was here to help you through it! I'm really lucky to have you back in my life! I know that you love your new apartment...and you have a fabulous neighbour....ME!! Who could ask for more!! Time to close that chapter now hon, you're making new memories that are special...and there are plenty more good times to come! I love you! Plain and simple...just like me!!! Lu xxxxx

    Posted 11-20-2007 at 02:27 AM by Lucy UK

20. 	Re: Hello... I am glad he got sentanced. And that you can put this behind you now. I am sorry you had to go through this in the first place. Congrats on your new flat. Lucy told me about it Glad you had a great party. Hope things will look great for hear on and that you will never have a difficult time like this again.
    	Posted 11-25-2007 at 01:12 AM by ijsbeer

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